You sometimes have to make concessions in your life and sometimes its better than nothing. Having the inability to not pursue some of my favorite endeavors really flattened the tires of inspiration, but today is about bouncing back from perceived defeat. First, "never give up" sounds good on paper, right? Yes, it's very feel good phrase, somewhat annoying, but I got love for me, and faith. People have love and faith in my ability to persevere, create, and inspire even when I don't feel like I can. Theres' always something good and true about your support network. Call em up, sent a meal or text, and get that feedback. They are here to help.
I recognize I'm not identified by my job, and if I were I think my unjust termination would've destroyed me. Was I proud about working? Was I having a good lifestyle? Was I working in spite all negativities? Oh yes I was. keeping up a professional demeanor no matter the process is magic. Somehow this hasn't kept me from being able to live, talk to people, and laugh. I laugh a lot. I got jokes, stories, amusing adventures I share. I have my blogs, and I still write.
So in the sense that I get that woe is me feeling when i'm driving through life, let me turn this car around. I'm going on that highways where the people are happy, productive, and love themselves. One thing to always remember as you see others having what you think is success and you're not. The grass always looks greener on the other side, however, you don't know what's going on past the surface. We may be in a post-Post Modern world, BUT everything that looks good, and good for you, and all that glitters ain't gold. Remember those phrases as you get that nagging thought that some are better off cause they have what you don't material wise. For me, prayer, meditation, love and support always gets me through. Getting that good night's sleep, stepping into a new morning, and keeping it moving is a priceless act that pays now, and sows seeds for the future. Invest in yourself. God will help save you.
Thursday, June 28, 2012
Wednesday, June 27, 2012
Unemployment Sucks Part 5: School's Out (For Now)
For the moment, I can kiss my graduate dreams goodbye for now as looking for a job takes top priority. Sometimes our dreams and goals are on hold, and it feel like there's no light at the tunnel for completion of said dreams. It feels like life's been sucked right out of me, as if my goals and dreams aren't worth a rat's nasty behind at the moment. That really stinks, but as always optimism lives with me, and my peeps remind me all the time that things will get better.
For those who don't have peeps telling them this, and you need to hear it, listen to me now, THINGS WILL GET BETTER. It does take time and it is a frustrating situation to live through, but we are strong people, and this is but a footnote in our histories. Our strength is being tested by adversity. I know I've taken a lot of hits. I've been tested many times, and I manage to come through. I'll do it again.
In addition to the woes, I'm reevaluating where I obtain my masters degree. While I think highly of my professors, and learned a lot from them, I worked where I went to school, and being unjustly terminated placed the entire university in a different light. Professors aside, do I -- should I return to a place that treated me in such a poor, disrespectful manner? Would I not be better off in a place where I didn't feel like I was disrespected, and contributed monetarily to a company like the former place of business? These are things worth contemplating and helping me move onto better prospects. Let me tell you, the best for me has yet to come.
I will say this with most confidence, in the past, my ancestors have been disrespected, and now so have I, but we all endure our struggles, heartaches and pains. We move forward. It is that strength, support, and love that has made all my experiences worthwhile and allowed me to see and move beyond the negatives. Entitlement, works for some, but others such as ourselves put in the time to make sure things are done. I don't have the luxury of entitlement. I do know what my parents told me, and my grandpaprents, and the stories I've know all my life. You gotta take stands somewhere in your life, or you will fall for anything.
For those who don't have peeps telling them this, and you need to hear it, listen to me now, THINGS WILL GET BETTER. It does take time and it is a frustrating situation to live through, but we are strong people, and this is but a footnote in our histories. Our strength is being tested by adversity. I know I've taken a lot of hits. I've been tested many times, and I manage to come through. I'll do it again.
In addition to the woes, I'm reevaluating where I obtain my masters degree. While I think highly of my professors, and learned a lot from them, I worked where I went to school, and being unjustly terminated placed the entire university in a different light. Professors aside, do I -- should I return to a place that treated me in such a poor, disrespectful manner? Would I not be better off in a place where I didn't feel like I was disrespected, and contributed monetarily to a company like the former place of business? These are things worth contemplating and helping me move onto better prospects. Let me tell you, the best for me has yet to come.
I will say this with most confidence, in the past, my ancestors have been disrespected, and now so have I, but we all endure our struggles, heartaches and pains. We move forward. It is that strength, support, and love that has made all my experiences worthwhile and allowed me to see and move beyond the negatives. Entitlement, works for some, but others such as ourselves put in the time to make sure things are done. I don't have the luxury of entitlement. I do know what my parents told me, and my grandpaprents, and the stories I've know all my life. You gotta take stands somewhere in your life, or you will fall for anything.
Tuesday, June 26, 2012
Unemployment Sucks Part 4: Keep Your Head Up
Staying positive after loosing one's job is much easier said than done. It really kills the good will and mentality to progress or feel satisfied in life. No matter what the reason is that you're no longer work at your job, you've got to flourish and keep your head up. The opposite is to lay down and accept defeat. If no one ever says it, "we are worth every bit of success that we once had and then some," I'm saying it for us. The determination and ability to handle this upset is but a stepping stone in life. This is but an experience to discuss and to overcome. We all have strength in the face of adversity.
Admittedly I was down when I was unjustly terminated, but I know I couldn't rest on this point. I believe that the experience, the worries, and the fears are all natural. I went through them. I suffered the woes, but I'm not giving up, and neither should anyone else. In addition to job searches, resume updates, job fairs, and meetings on career/interview improvements, nothing's gelled yet. Still I refuse to give up. Giving up isn't considered because I have to take care of myself. Also I love working.
Let's face it, jobs do more than give us a paycheck. Jobs give us structure, routines, and a sense of achievement. Being removed from these productive elements is not only draining, but depressing. Sadly there's no manual for how to survive this kind of upset. All that anyone can do is try their hardest to keep their head up. Family and friends kept my spirits moving in a positive direction, as well as prayer, meditation, and any form of distraction I could find, like playing games, TV shows, and looking at old films in my home.
One bad thing I did was watch reality shows. When I was employed I never watched them. I'm reminded why I didn't like them as I type this post. A lot of the shows are awful and negative. I wasn't made to hold this kind of drama in my psyche. Attempting to pull away was a hot mess of me being curious, which is not where I need to place my focus. I guess that's as low as I go. I feel lucky because some people don't stop with reality shows. Substance abuse comes into the picture for some. That's a dark road I pray no one has to fall into.
My only suggestion is to find things that help you take your mind off your woes. For me writing is one of my strengths, so I'm putting this to use now. I love to cook, southern/soul food cuisines. Maybe one day I should try baking. Make a cake from scratch, or a box. So long as it gets made. Music also takes my mind off a lot of heaviness for brief moments at a time. We gotta keep things progressing. Don't fall into a slump. It happened, but we have the power to move away. It's not easy, but then again, the things worth having are never easy to achieve.
Let's face it, jobs do more than give us a paycheck. Jobs give us structure, routines, and a sense of achievement. Being removed from these productive elements is not only draining, but depressing. Sadly there's no manual for how to survive this kind of upset. All that anyone can do is try their hardest to keep their head up. Family and friends kept my spirits moving in a positive direction, as well as prayer, meditation, and any form of distraction I could find, like playing games, TV shows, and looking at old films in my home.
One bad thing I did was watch reality shows. When I was employed I never watched them. I'm reminded why I didn't like them as I type this post. A lot of the shows are awful and negative. I wasn't made to hold this kind of drama in my psyche. Attempting to pull away was a hot mess of me being curious, which is not where I need to place my focus. I guess that's as low as I go. I feel lucky because some people don't stop with reality shows. Substance abuse comes into the picture for some. That's a dark road I pray no one has to fall into.
My only suggestion is to find things that help you take your mind off your woes. For me writing is one of my strengths, so I'm putting this to use now. I love to cook, southern/soul food cuisines. Maybe one day I should try baking. Make a cake from scratch, or a box. So long as it gets made. Music also takes my mind off a lot of heaviness for brief moments at a time. We gotta keep things progressing. Don't fall into a slump. It happened, but we have the power to move away. It's not easy, but then again, the things worth having are never easy to achieve.
Monday, June 25, 2012
Unemployment Sucks Part 3: Me, Hardships, and Unemployment Benefits
A lot of people never have to think about being terminated, and I pray that most never will. Quite frankly, termination cuts to the bone. In my case, the rug was totally pulled from under me. One day I had a job, the next day, I didn't. I claim unjust termination because of the facts surrounding my termination, and that I received unemployment benefits in spite of my former employer's sly attempt to tap dance around the truth and employee laws. I believe greatness shall come from my experiences. That these horrible transgressions shall be a thing of the past to share with others.
Being terminated for any reason leaves a person in a vulnerable financial and psychological state. After all, how do you explain why you don't have a job anymore to family and friends? How do you tell your former co-workers what happened to you? How do you pay your bills, your rent, car repairs, groceries, and subscriptions you may have (like HBO, magazines, group dues, etc.)? It's quite the hardship, let me tell you.
Adjusting is the hard part. I love my life and the things it brought me to be better in life and succeed. To give these things up is a huge step backwards. In fact it puts me near the poverty line. This is very, very scary. At the same time prayer, meditation, family and friends really help lift my spirits.
Loss of my steady income means sometimes I must pay my bills late, and that's a pet peeve of mine. Promptness with bills affords me security and happiness as opposed to bringing my stress levels to new heights, which happens all the time now. Without a steady job, I have no steady income. I reluctantly kissed the old lifestyle goodbye. I really can't really relocate for another job because the new apartment complex will want to know how I'm going to pay them, and they don't accept that I "might" get a job. What's that to anyone? Where to do I find the money to relocate? As a friend pointed out to me, in my case, one viable option available to me is moving in with a relative.
Unemployment benefits saved me from the complete financial crisis that unjust termination brought into my life. According to employee law; Section 34-8-194 former employees can't collect unemployment benefits if he or she is the cause of their termination. For example, lateness on a daily basis could not only be grounds for termination, it would mean I couldn't collect unemployment benefits due to it being my fault I was terminated. For that matter any company violations would apply here. There were no company violations on my part. I received unemployment benefits.
Being terminated for any reason leaves a person in a vulnerable financial and psychological state. After all, how do you explain why you don't have a job anymore to family and friends? How do you tell your former co-workers what happened to you? How do you pay your bills, your rent, car repairs, groceries, and subscriptions you may have (like HBO, magazines, group dues, etc.)? It's quite the hardship, let me tell you.
Adjusting is the hard part. I love my life and the things it brought me to be better in life and succeed. To give these things up is a huge step backwards. In fact it puts me near the poverty line. This is very, very scary. At the same time prayer, meditation, family and friends really help lift my spirits.
Loss of my steady income means sometimes I must pay my bills late, and that's a pet peeve of mine. Promptness with bills affords me security and happiness as opposed to bringing my stress levels to new heights, which happens all the time now. Without a steady job, I have no steady income. I reluctantly kissed the old lifestyle goodbye. I really can't really relocate for another job because the new apartment complex will want to know how I'm going to pay them, and they don't accept that I "might" get a job. What's that to anyone? Where to do I find the money to relocate? As a friend pointed out to me, in my case, one viable option available to me is moving in with a relative.
Unemployment benefits saved me from the complete financial crisis that unjust termination brought into my life. According to employee law; Section 34-8-194 former employees can't collect unemployment benefits if he or she is the cause of their termination. For example, lateness on a daily basis could not only be grounds for termination, it would mean I couldn't collect unemployment benefits due to it being my fault I was terminated. For that matter any company violations would apply here. There were no company violations on my part. I received unemployment benefits.
Sunday, June 24, 2012
Unemployment Sucks Part 2: Where'd That Insurance Go?
For those not in the know the benefits from many full-time jobs are amazing and I loved having insurance. The power of insurance should never be underestimated. my insurance covered medical expenses. For a chronic allergy sufferer such as myself, prescribed meds work the best, as my allergies went out of control to a point of barely manageable. It's not pretty, allergy symptoms, but having coverage was worth it's expense. Dental and eye exams are very important to me as well. For those of us who are nearsighted having check-ups mean a lot. I did need to get my health check ups in as well, since I'm not getting younger.
On the job front: New application and my resume submitted to another place of employment. Let's hope that "kiss of death" is washed out (I doubt it). I, however repeat, I'm not giving up. Prayer and meditation helps a lot. The things I do helps keep me calm, focused, and positive. What I draw additional inspiration from is that I am my own man, and I survive in spite of the things thrown at me. That's a Haynes thing. Never give up. Never surrender. Also keep it moving. Let other people wallow in misery. The best has yet to come, and we will thrive.
On the job front: New application and my resume submitted to another place of employment. Let's hope that "kiss of death" is washed out (I doubt it). I, however repeat, I'm not giving up. Prayer and meditation helps a lot. The things I do helps keep me calm, focused, and positive. What I draw additional inspiration from is that I am my own man, and I survive in spite of the things thrown at me. That's a Haynes thing. Never give up. Never surrender. Also keep it moving. Let other people wallow in misery. The best has yet to come, and we will thrive.
Saturday, June 23, 2012
Unemployment Sucks: Part 1
It doesn't matter how you got to the road of unemployment (unjust termination, just termination, layoff, company bankrupt), it simply sucks. This is my story of unemployment, and the hopeful road to survival, recovery, and triumph over adversity. My hopes with these posts are to help/inspire those in the same situations to grow and be inspired. Sometimes all we need is someone to support and encourage us for success. If you're struggling like I am, then you know giving up is not an option.
Being someone who was unjustly terminated, I can tell you that the main point for me right now is to attempt to restore my financial status and obtain gainful employment elsewhere. I can say, with experience, placing the word "termination" on any application is like the kiss of death. It suggests to some that you weren't a good employee, however any forced termination is undefined. For example, you could have loss your job due to transportation failures, accidents, and unforseen actions beyond your control. I'm fortunate I receive unemployment benefits, which helps me out some.
Needless to say I think trying to lie on applications is a mistake. It does feel like chains on the shoulder. A burden one's forced to deal with. At the same time, I know my strengths, track record, and skills I offer. It's a lot of work to keep up keeping on. Never giving up is the best motto at this stage.
Being someone who was unjustly terminated, I can tell you that the main point for me right now is to attempt to restore my financial status and obtain gainful employment elsewhere. I can say, with experience, placing the word "termination" on any application is like the kiss of death. It suggests to some that you weren't a good employee, however any forced termination is undefined. For example, you could have loss your job due to transportation failures, accidents, and unforseen actions beyond your control. I'm fortunate I receive unemployment benefits, which helps me out some.
Needless to say I think trying to lie on applications is a mistake. It does feel like chains on the shoulder. A burden one's forced to deal with. At the same time, I know my strengths, track record, and skills I offer. It's a lot of work to keep up keeping on. Never giving up is the best motto at this stage.
Sunday, June 10, 2012
Keep It Real
I hope to put my best foot forward in situations, but sometimes even the best foot needs an evaluation. Being good does not mean being a blank slate. It doesn't mean no matter what you have to be kind and benevolent. Being good means your word is your bond. You commit to your decisions. You don't back down.
I'm not perfect in the least. I've failed at several things. I don't expect perfection from others around me. I do, however expect a modest amount of respect. Time and experience taught me that a lot of people aren't aren't always looking for respect. They can't be honest in the least, and most of all they want my respect. I got news for you. You want that respect thats due? You want that loyalty that comes from being down for whatever? You want me to remember that relationships are a two way street? I hear you. I want that too. I also need something else you need to be mindful of: taking these virtues for granted. As patient as I've been in the past, I'm done with it.
No man's patience is infinite. I'm tired and I don't have to be nice about it. The things I want out of life are before me. Time to move away from negative influences and gravitate towards the positive.
I'm not perfect in the least. I've failed at several things. I don't expect perfection from others around me. I do, however expect a modest amount of respect. Time and experience taught me that a lot of people aren't aren't always looking for respect. They can't be honest in the least, and most of all they want my respect. I got news for you. You want that respect thats due? You want that loyalty that comes from being down for whatever? You want me to remember that relationships are a two way street? I hear you. I want that too. I also need something else you need to be mindful of: taking these virtues for granted. As patient as I've been in the past, I'm done with it.
No man's patience is infinite. I'm tired and I don't have to be nice about it. The things I want out of life are before me. Time to move away from negative influences and gravitate towards the positive.
Monday, May 28, 2012
Goofing Off
Ok I have to admit that I love to procrastinate. Not that I'm up against the wall or anything, but it's time to get a project into high gear. This meant dedicated time to writing. So I did write. Let me tell you I made this a top priority. No console games until I got things done. I think once this week is done I can put MORE efforts into completing the project. My goal is to make sure I'm working daily on it, but I'd love to see my output increase. This means working harder at something I think is worth it. Needless to to say in a few days expect me to say the output flows better than expected. WHo knew if all roads lead to this, but I can't argue with positive results.
Saturday, May 19, 2012
Awake
I woke up early as a consequence of a latte that amped my system. Eyes not feeling awakeness. They remain heavy and threaten to close and I drift back to sleep. So I'm in bed, indulgent, and willing to write up a post on being tired cause I am tired. It's calm and feels relaxing. No need to stir. It looks gloomy outside. I can tell cause there's no bright beaming sun in my room.
Friday, May 18, 2012
It's Been A While. . .
It's been a while since I wrote a personal blog post, and I've been busy with my Cinema Blog, and getting some other things together. I need to reorganize some things. been trying to get a lot of writing done, and some essays in my pocket and ready for publishing. Part of that means writing, writing, and a lot more writing. My focus with the essays feels stronger, as I keep on keeping on. I'm living a dream and praying for things to work. Gotta keep up the energy.
For the record I have at least two films to review and write notes upon. Writing out some ideas for them before I look again. Tightening the focus to scenes, as trying to review the entire film. Also gave myself a real challenge. I decided to look over a film I found horrible to watch. While I read and loved the book, Queen of the Damned by Anne Rice, the film version was less than entertaining. Needless to say I made two challenges. The first was I suppose I should get my money's worth and that means addressing this film. The second is could I give a poor film a credible essay? The answer is "yes." I got my work cut out for me. Gotta keep it moving.
For the record I have at least two films to review and write notes upon. Writing out some ideas for them before I look again. Tightening the focus to scenes, as trying to review the entire film. Also gave myself a real challenge. I decided to look over a film I found horrible to watch. While I read and loved the book, Queen of the Damned by Anne Rice, the film version was less than entertaining. Needless to say I made two challenges. The first was I suppose I should get my money's worth and that means addressing this film. The second is could I give a poor film a credible essay? The answer is "yes." I got my work cut out for me. Gotta keep it moving.
Tuesday, May 08, 2012
Weeeeee!
Taking a bit of a break to goof of. Boy does it feel good. LMAO I do need to get some writing in so goofing comes with a price. Did I mention I love writing? I think I may have mentioned that a few times won this blog. I've been slacking off as I'm watching TV, which is typically a no-no when I want to get stuff done, but it seems that the TV on in the bedroom seems to work magic. Yes, I'm sitting on my bed while typing as opposed to sitting in a chair at my table.
Still I got work to do. Que the Vanessa Williams song, "Work To Do."
Still I got work to do. Que the Vanessa Williams song, "Work To Do."
Monday, May 07, 2012
Some Days
Some things I hope will improve with this day as the weather looks a mess. I thew out the garbage the moment there was a clearing. Wish I had done that yesterday. At least I didn't forget to tie it up last night, and was sure once today hit I was gonna have a hassle free trip to the bins. Surprise. So some days are predictable and easy, while others are a hot mess of surprises. At least it didn't storm.
Friday, May 04, 2012
1/1/12. What a Man has to do.
Another "Charleston Sessions" post.
Happy New Year! I'm very happy for the prospects that a new year can bring. One must remember the love and support from last year and bring that into this year. The negativity can stay back in 2011. We're about looking forward, resolving what was not completed and feeling like a man should in the morning, evening and night. Love and take care of yourself. As a whole we must strive to be positive and keep things moving.
That's what men do. That's what we all do when we need to succeed in life.
Happy New Year! I'm very happy for the prospects that a new year can bring. One must remember the love and support from last year and bring that into this year. The negativity can stay back in 2011. We're about looking forward, resolving what was not completed and feeling like a man should in the morning, evening and night. Love and take care of yourself. As a whole we must strive to be positive and keep things moving.
That's what men do. That's what we all do when we need to succeed in life.
Monday, April 30, 2012
From The Last Day of December 2011
12/31/11
Last day of the year with fifteen minutes left. Grandmom passed out at the dinner table. We called 911 for an ambulance. She had an imbalance and had to be carried back into the house. Everyone is worried. I'm happy she woke back up. Heartbreaking.
I did minimal writing and I knew that would happen. I forgot to blog up to this point in the night. Well this is why I'm working on this. Mind you, Granny's predicament took top priority in my head. I wish she didn't have to go through these upsets.
I will say I am happy to be done with 2011. It's been a rough year full of upsets. I'm happy NOT to have to look backwards. Looking forward to 2012. It will be a real game changer.
Last day of the year with fifteen minutes left. Grandmom passed out at the dinner table. We called 911 for an ambulance. She had an imbalance and had to be carried back into the house. Everyone is worried. I'm happy she woke back up. Heartbreaking.
I did minimal writing and I knew that would happen. I forgot to blog up to this point in the night. Well this is why I'm working on this. Mind you, Granny's predicament took top priority in my head. I wish she didn't have to go through these upsets.
I will say I am happy to be done with 2011. It's been a rough year full of upsets. I'm happy NOT to have to look backwards. Looking forward to 2012. It will be a real game changer.
Sunday, April 29, 2012
From My Holidays
12/30/11
Today was a day to run some errands. Promised myself to look up air purifiers to take with me back home. I had one but it died on me and ever since then my allergies and congestion have beaten me in the face. On top of that I wanted to help Mom with a few supplies. It's not bad but a new purifier costs a lot of money so I hope it does what it says it can. Otherwise I think 2012 will be rough.
I need to make sure I do a blog post. I regret not typing something earlier (it's 11:52 PM). I do know that before bed I want a written commitment. Did write a few lines for the current short story down today. It is not a loss, but rather a small victory.
Today was a day to run some errands. Promised myself to look up air purifiers to take with me back home. I had one but it died on me and ever since then my allergies and congestion have beaten me in the face. On top of that I wanted to help Mom with a few supplies. It's not bad but a new purifier costs a lot of money so I hope it does what it says it can. Otherwise I think 2012 will be rough.
I need to make sure I do a blog post. I regret not typing something earlier (it's 11:52 PM). I do know that before bed I want a written commitment. Did write a few lines for the current short story down today. It is not a loss, but rather a small victory.
Today
Today is not so bad at all and will work itself out. I find myself remembering that having faith in the future and well-being Leila get me through a lot of things. I thought I was missing a few things, like how can I get things done, BUT those skills and strength has been in me for a good while. It's time to bring that strength out.
Thursday, April 26, 2012
Faux Pas or Get Your Peanut Butter out of My Mothertrucking Chocolate
Social networking is an interesting and viable channel to use. After all, blogging allows us to speak and communicate with others. As I use more and more features, I'm learning to cross pollinate. Hence my Blogger posts go to the Twitter and Facebook feeds, etc. Life is good.
Every now and then I come across a situation I can only call an underwhelming faux pas which is when someone uses say their Twitter feed to blast someone they're "friends" with on another social network. How does one even go about trying to mend that fence? It's clear that someone forgot the other was on their feed (or perhaps they didn't). Is this how we want to conduct ourselves? I've noticed time and time again someone with the gall to make a comment they think others can't see or interpret in a given feed. Is it shallow or pretentious? It is, but that's besides the point. Some see themselves as keepers of the just only for the moment when the odds are on their side. They aren't for the just when truth, justice, or vindication is something that is difficult, long, and possibly not in sight at the moment to obtain. In other words, instant gratification that is both shallow and pretentious.
For the record I'm not talking venting. We all do that. Venting is (usually) not aimed at one specific person, but at a situation. I'm talking I'm made at you on Facebook, so I'll tell my Twitter friends. Or I"'m going to post some BS on FB and hope you can't (or can) read between the lines." Really?
There are instant and private message features to resolve conflicts, or one could walk up to said person and have a conversation. Many friends use the aforementioned time-proven methods, and it does make a bad situation better. All could be well in the universe with some consideration. Should anyone have to deal with an ass-backwards person who in fact doesn't want to resolve the conflict, but egg it on? Does this make me above or beyond this situation? No. We're all human and make mistakes, but I feel I need to address this within myself and express my thoughts.
What I'm seeing more and more of is cyber cliques and some of them are trickier than others. If one of the cliques feel bad on Facebook, they make sure to "code it up" on Twitter or what they think is code and pretend victim status. When does that end? When does being a douche allow for intelligent discourse? Is it supposed to be intelligent, or was it made with the intent of not being caught?
Since I keep talking about "keeping it moving" that's what I need to do, but since I'm asking a question I wonder, should anyone tolerate such behavior? Again, looking at this as being human, we all make these faux pas, and it would be unfair to want people to be perfect. They do, however need manners. Sometimes what we see is a taste of who people really are. Is this who we want to be next to? Should we be mad and unforgiving over a few faux pas?
Perhaps we should ask ourselves if we're in the same situation, or see it happening more than once, then we already have our answer. It's not a faux pas then. That's outright piss poor behavior. How does one change this? Keep it moving, and know that in spite of any transaction, you can always do better cause you know better.
Every now and then I come across a situation I can only call an underwhelming faux pas which is when someone uses say their Twitter feed to blast someone they're "friends" with on another social network. How does one even go about trying to mend that fence? It's clear that someone forgot the other was on their feed (or perhaps they didn't). Is this how we want to conduct ourselves? I've noticed time and time again someone with the gall to make a comment they think others can't see or interpret in a given feed. Is it shallow or pretentious? It is, but that's besides the point. Some see themselves as keepers of the just only for the moment when the odds are on their side. They aren't for the just when truth, justice, or vindication is something that is difficult, long, and possibly not in sight at the moment to obtain. In other words, instant gratification that is both shallow and pretentious.
For the record I'm not talking venting. We all do that. Venting is (usually) not aimed at one specific person, but at a situation. I'm talking I'm made at you on Facebook, so I'll tell my Twitter friends. Or I"'m going to post some BS on FB and hope you can't (or can) read between the lines." Really?
There are instant and private message features to resolve conflicts, or one could walk up to said person and have a conversation. Many friends use the aforementioned time-proven methods, and it does make a bad situation better. All could be well in the universe with some consideration. Should anyone have to deal with an ass-backwards person who in fact doesn't want to resolve the conflict, but egg it on? Does this make me above or beyond this situation? No. We're all human and make mistakes, but I feel I need to address this within myself and express my thoughts.
What I'm seeing more and more of is cyber cliques and some of them are trickier than others. If one of the cliques feel bad on Facebook, they make sure to "code it up" on Twitter or what they think is code and pretend victim status. When does that end? When does being a douche allow for intelligent discourse? Is it supposed to be intelligent, or was it made with the intent of not being caught?
Since I keep talking about "keeping it moving" that's what I need to do, but since I'm asking a question I wonder, should anyone tolerate such behavior? Again, looking at this as being human, we all make these faux pas, and it would be unfair to want people to be perfect. They do, however need manners. Sometimes what we see is a taste of who people really are. Is this who we want to be next to? Should we be mad and unforgiving over a few faux pas?
Perhaps we should ask ourselves if we're in the same situation, or see it happening more than once, then we already have our answer. It's not a faux pas then. That's outright piss poor behavior. How does one change this? Keep it moving, and know that in spite of any transaction, you can always do better cause you know better.
Monday, April 16, 2012
The Congestion Factor
Over the weekend I did a lot of cleaning, and I was outside. In spite of taking my allergy meds, I believe my system was overwhelmed by the pollen, and the dust that came from cleaning. Paying for that now with a vengeance. I do think if I hadn't had the meds I'd still be in bed trying to recover. Congestion built itself up like I needed a surplus, and I don't. I have things to do, projects to work on. If I can only give the minimum amount of attention, then that's what's gonna get done. Besides the medicine, drinking hot tea and water seems to help out tremendously. Need to make something to eat soon.
Friday, April 13, 2012
Mellowing Out
I'm having a time with Comcast Cable this week. For some reason my bedroom box stopped working. Now free some over the phone help and switching out the box, it's been determined a tech person has to show up.
It's going to cost me $50.00 for the visit. Really? It was explained to me that this happened when a tech visits. Its a line issue as the signal can't reach the box. I'm more than a bit mad. Thought about seeing how long I can do without cable. Not my ideal goal but my back's getting to the wall.
It's going to cost me $50.00 for the visit. Really? It was explained to me that this happened when a tech visits. Its a line issue as the signal can't reach the box. I'm more than a bit mad. Thought about seeing how long I can do without cable. Not my ideal goal but my back's getting to the wall.
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